Oh, Mary

We Are in Tired Times. And Yet, There’s Hope.

March 26, 2020
Josh Galassi

I would like to say we are in trying times, but I think it goes beyond that. We are in tired times, or at least I am. I am tired of the headlines. I’m tired of being stuck physically, in one place. I’m tired with worry: worry for my partner, who is now without a job; worry for my mother in Montana, who was told by her doctor she has “no chance of survival” if she gets this; worried for the world at large, and all of its uncertainty.

But who am I to complain? Even as I write this, I realize that I reek with privilege. Hell, my exhaustion is a privilege! I still have a job, I’m still cashing checks, I’m still able to make a mad dash to the grocery store when the milk runs empty, and I still have clients that need my help, now more than ever. The only real ramification I’ve had (to date) is that I lost my freelancing job, a side hustle that paid for my morning coffees every month. Oh no, guess I have to make coffee at home now! Woe is me, right?

I’ve found that even in moments of exhaustion, we have to keep going. We can’t let worry and fatigue consume us. In times of uncertainty, we must find things we know are certain: the love for our pets, the love for our family, the love for each other (in that order, preferably). We must hold on to the certainty that the sky is blue, and like the times we are living in, is capable of changing. We have to stay certain that there is still good happening in this world. 

Sure, 40% of the US population may be barricaded at home, but that doesn’t mean we have to barricade our happiness. Rather than dwell on our woes, focus on what brings you joy. For me, joy is taking my dogs for a walk around the block, it’s watching television shows that are obviously made for children (hello, Disney+!) but allow me to escape reality for a bit, it’s swapping dog photos with journalists and hearing how they are holding up.

Yes, we are in tired times, where nothing seems certain. But we have to adapt to preserve our sanity. Am I being too idealist, too simplistic, too white-people-spouting-nonsense in my approach? Probably. But they say if you are tired, you should rest. Let’s not forget to do that, even if it feels like we don’t have the time or the privilege.